Dealing with Anxiety


Hey everyone, how are you all doing?

I’m currently waiting for the train heading back from London – it was absolutely freezing this morning! As I was walking to the tube station, there were layers of frost which glistened on the fallen leaves on the ground and the cold air felt like tiny icicles piercing my face. The chilly weather seems appropriate now that it’s finally December – I couldn’t be more excited about it! What advent calendars have you got this year?

Today I want to talk about anxiety. Whether it’s some more than others, we all feel it on different levels from time to time. In the moment, it can become very overwhelming with both the emotional and physical symptoms that come with feeling anxious. Over the years, I have tried out different methods to deal with these heightened feelings of anxiety, whether it’s in the particular moment or just in general. I’d like to share these coping mechanisms with you so you can try them out and hopefully they will help you.

  • Focus on your breathing
    When you’re in a moment of panic, what’s really important is your breathing. It’s mind over matter here, and if you can start to focus on your breathing, encouraging yourself to slowly breathe in and out, your mind will eventually be convinced that you aren’t anxious anymore because you are breathing slower. Be patient with this. A few slow breathes won’t stop you feeling anxious, but the persistence of slow breathing will gradually help yourself to calm down.
  • Get in touch with your senses
    I’ve read a lot about the effects of doing this when you are in a moment of panic and it is proven to be very effective. When you feel anxious, try to observe what’s around you and what you can see/touch/hear/smell. It helps channel your mind back to reality and reminds yourself that you are okay. Bringing your senses back to reality helps reduce anxiety as it’s a reminder that you are in control, you are secure, and you are okay.
  • Remind yourself that you have felt this way before
    Reminding yourself that you have felt this way before and nothing bad happened the last time is another way to reassure yourself that things will be okay. Yes, you feel anxious right now but this moment will pass, just like it did last time. Just focus on your breathing, get in touch with your surroundings and remind yourself this will pass.

These are some key coping mechanisms I’ve found to be very useful when I’m feeling anxious or overwhelmed. If you would like to hear more tips please let me know!

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx


Acceptance


Hey guys!

How has your day been? My Christmas shopping has finally started; all the discounts are on so now is the perfect time! I can’t get enough of the glittery lights which parade the city centre, and the dazzling Christmas decorations which fulfil the shop windows, each spreading the jubilant buzz as December 1st approaches.

I’m sure you’ve had a busy day today. As the beautiful blue sky falls to darkness and the nightfall hours approach, allow yourself some quality time. Grab a cup of tea, switch off from the outside world and allow yourself some time to relax and read this post.

Today, I was walking back home, listening to this insightful podcast about wellbeing. The content within the podcast inspired me to write today’s post because it mentioned something which I feel a lot of us could be better at, which is acceptance.

We’ve all felt it: sadness, guilt, disappointment, jealousy – the list is infinite. It is important to remind ourselves that it is entirely normal to experience these feelings from time to time. However, I firmly believe that there are ways to deal with these certain emotions that sometimes negatively overwhelm us.

Over the years, I have learnt that being able to accept these negative feelings as they come is a way to help them go. A quote I picked up from the podcast was “what we resist, persists,” and it’s so true. When we try to fight anger, the heat inside us intensifies. When we try to battle sadness, it remains stuck in our chest. When we criticize ourselves for being jealous, we feel worse. Essentially, rebelling against our emotions (rather than allowing them to happen), can overall affect us negatively.

Treat yourself and your feelings with kindness. Remind yourself that what you are feeling doesn’t define who you are as a person. People experience different emotions daily and that’s okay. These feelings come and go and being able to accept them and watch them gradually dissolve is a part of the amazing journey to self-love.

So next time you feel down, don’t resist it. Allow it, accept that you are feeling that way as it will pass.

I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post and I hope it helps you! Please subscribe if you would like to see more content!

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

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Being Kind to Yourself


Hello guys!

How are you all doing today?! Currently sat at my desk with a cup of tea (and some fluffy socks on) – it is freezing!

The other day, I was listening to a Podcast walking back from University. It was about healthy eating, encouraging us to eat well because our bodies are ‘temples’ which we should treat with care. Essentially, it was saying that if we put good things into our bodies, then there will be good outcomes which will benefit us (eg/ feeling healthier, better skin, being fitter etc). It inspired me to write this post because it led me to believe that surely if our bodies are temples, then our minds are too. So today, I want to talk about being kind to yourself.

‘I wish my lips were bigger,’ ‘my skin is so bad,’ ‘I wish I was thinner.’

Do these thoughts seem familiar? Every day, we are exposed to influxes of images and videos of people looking their best and having the most amazing time of their lives. Through adverts, social media, models and fitness guru’s, we are consumed into this downward spiral of self-comparison. We are constantly exposed to airbrushed images and desirable lives, resulting us to helplessly compare our worst to someone else’s best. What we need to remember is that our minds are temples, and so comparing ourselves to others and putting ourselves down only makes us feel worse and less confident – and nobody deserves to feel this way.

What can we do to minimise these habits? Firstly, it’s good to realise that you are doing it. When you notice that you are comparing yourself to others, or that you are putting yourself down, then you can alter the negative into a positive. So, instead of comparing yourself and putting yourself down, try saying “yes, she may have nice hair, but I love my eyes and I love that I’m a kind person.” Being kind to yourself and treating yourself the way you would treat a friend is one of the key routes to self-acceptance and happiness.
Secondly, remind yourself that everyone is different. You will have amazing qualities which some people won’t have, just like other people will have certain strengths you don’t have. We are all individual and talented in our own, unique ways and that’s totally fine. So be kind to yourself and remember to feed your mind with positive affirmations – you will feel the benefits of it!

When I’m having an off day, I find that writing a list of things I am grateful for and writing things that I like about myself really cheer me up. It is so easy to get wrapped up and distracted in our busy day-to-day schedules that we forget to be appreciative and grateful for the things we have in life.

So, look after yourselves and have a lovely rest of your day! Feel free to subscribe if you want to see more content! I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s post.

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx


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Taking a Break


Hey guys,

Happy Halloween! The dark nights have approached us, the crisp, cold air greets us each morning and the hot chocolates are most definitely needed. Although I love this time of year, I also think it’s a time where people are prone to feeling down, due to a variety of reasons: Seasonal Affective Disorder, assignments and deadlines, exams approaching, missing the hot weather.

This week, I took a week off University as I was visiting Cornwall for a couple of days for a holiday. Initially, I was really stressed at the thought of missing uni, however, hindsight made me realise it was definitely the right decision. I had been very caught up in uni work – ongoing thoughts about my dissertation became very overwhelming, and the uncertainty of what I will be doing after my degree was disquieting me. I want to talk to you today about how beneficial it was for my wellbeing to take a break from what was stressing me out, and how it made me feel to live in the present.

Going on a mini-break meant I could disconnect from the busy world of work and enjoy a relaxing, peaceful time away. It was great – walking on the beach, going bodyboarding, walking in the woods, drinking hot chocolate, roaming around independent shops, eating pastries and cycling. And what I particularly loved about this holiday was that for the majority of it I felt so distant from technology. My use of social media was limited, I rarely checked my emails and the heavy stress I was carrying on my shoulders disappeared. One of the activities I particularly enjoyed was cycling, because not only was I exercising my body, but it felt so mentally rewarding and refreshing to absorb all the surroundings nature could offer and appreciate the scenic, aesthetic views. This may seem very cliché, but my point is that I felt so content and happy during that bike ride because I was living in the present. The worries of my dissertation vanished, the worries I had about the future dissolved and I felt so fulfilled at the fact that I didn’t need to focus on anything other than the what was happening in the now. Going on a bike ride is not something I would usually choose to do, so it was good to experience something that isn’t in my usual routine.

Going on a few days break really did me the world of good. My mind feels clearer because of the quality time I had, with minimal phone use and a high dosage of nature. It felt so good to just let go of the worries and enjoy what was happening in the present.

I just thought I would share my experience with you because it felt so rewarding and refreshing! If you’re feeling overwhelmed or sad, why not take a break? It can just be for one day – or even just a few hours. Go for a walk, go for a bike ride, go for a run and just embrace what is around you and live in the moment.

I hope you guys have a wonderful rest of your day!

Lots of love, Somewhat Perfect xxx