The Importance of a Social Media Detox


Hello everyone,

Happy Friday! I also can’t be the only one thinking HOW is it August already!? It’s a very grey and windy morning here today – a little reminder that Autumn will be greeting us soon.

Today, I want to highlight the importance of having a social media detox. A few weeks ago, a few of my friends and I went to Wales for a few days as my friend has a house there. Passing the green fields and along the sandy coasts, we finally arrived at a beautiful, white cottage-like holiday home. It was located in the quietest area, surrounded by scenic views and the atmosphere felt muffled because it was so tranquil. And, to top it off, there was no WIFI and I had ran out of any 3G/4G by this point – a genuine digital detox and it did me the world of good.

Don’t get me wrong – social media has many positive aspects to it. However, I feel like many of us are habitually consumed by the ‘perfect’ façade of social media. We are exposed to influxes of filtered images and the highlights of people’s lives which can cause us to compare ourselves to others thus having a negative impact on our mental wellbeing. It can also cause feelings of FOMO, as comparing your life to what you see online can be nearly impossible, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. So sometimes, time spent away from the online world is very much needed!

Experiencing five days away from social media felt like a mental and emotional cleanse. Temporary detached from the online world and truly feeling engaged in nature and the real world was so refreshing. It felt so enriching to spend time talking to my friends with undivided attention – without having the subconscious need to check my phone. It’s a different type of presence that doesn’t co-exist with social media usage.

I realised that spending time on social media can quickly change your mood, so spending time away from it made me feel happier. Spending less time on my phone allowed me to reflect more, both on myself and on life, and I overall felt a lot more content. I realised that social media can sometimes add extra stress and negativity to life when used too much. And, although I am back at home with WiFi now, I’ve decided to use social media a lot less and replace it with doing something more productive. For example, I don’t go on social media as soon as I wake up anymore which is something that I used to do.

Have you had a social media detox recently? If you haven’t, perhaps consider doing one, especially if you are feeling a little overwhelmed at the minute.

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Have a lovely day xxx

Building Self-Confidence


Hello everyone,

Happy Wednesday, I hope you all had a lovely weekend. A few weeks ago, I put another poll up on Instagram, in which the majority of votes were in favour for writing a post about building confidence.

Trust me when I say that confidence issues are not rare. Whether you feel unconfident about yourself, your career or other aspects of life, it can be very unmotivating and can prevent you from stepping out of your comfort zone. Everybody struggles with confidence at some point in their lives, and so it’s important to tackle these issues for improved wellbeing and to love yourself!

Do you tell yourself that you aren’t good enough? Do you compare yourself to other people? Do you put yourself down and criticise yourself? We are all guilty of it, but these harmful thinking patterns are very damaging for your confidence, mental health and self-esteem. They also often occur from habit but can be dealt with through a change of mindset.

  1. Practice self-love
    Make a list and write down what you love about yourself. What are your strengths? What are you proud of? What have you achieved? Do this whenever you’re feeling down or are lacking in confidence. Feeding your mind self-love is a great way to feel better about yourself. Remember that everybody is different – you are special and great in your own way.
  2. Affirmations
    Waking up and telling yourself positive affirmations is a great way to practice your mind into a healthy, positive place. Tell yourself you accept yourself. Tell yourself you are confident in your abilities. Remind yourself that you can do what you’re wanting to achieve.
  3. Step out of your comfort zone
    This can be very challenging, particularly during times when your confidence is low. However, stepping out of your comfort zone can really help with this. It’s all about getting comfortable with discomfort. As you practice is more and break boundaries, you will see yourself grow and you will learn to enjoy new challenges. Nobody is completely fearless of change – it can be scary! But being able to take baby steps and put yourself in unusual environments can do the world of good.

Obviously, a growth in self-confidence doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process which takes time. But being able to recognise that your self-confidence needs a boost, and willingly putting the effort in to help yourself is the first big step in achieving it.

I hope you’ve enjoyed the blog post today and I hope it helps you.

Lots of love,

Somewhat Perfect xxx

Holding a Positive Attitude to Life


Happy Sunday everybody, how has your week been?

As the birds chirp outside, the sun’s rays delicately shine onto the wooden table my laptop sits on. Each sip of my iced coffee is an injection of energy and my fluffy bedtime socks feel cosy and warm. I feel at peace and I am living in the present, and I am grateful for that. What are you grateful for today?

I want to jump straight into today’s blog topic which is all about how to maintain a positive attitude. Throughout lockdown, many of us have struggled with keeping so positive during a time of uncertainty. All this alone time has allowed me to see the importance and power of positivity and how to alter thinking habits.

Of course, it is impossible to always stay positive. Sometimes, the stress of life meets us at cross junctions, causing us to feel like we are stuck behind a traffic of to-do chores and problems. It’s natural to feel like this from time to time. But it’s also important to realise that our mindset plays a particularly important role in how we cope with some of the issues we face.

So, how can you keep a positive attitude? It does involve time and practice. It’s all about converting the way you think, like a habit. Often, when we are negative, we are habitually thinking negatively, and it often becomes unnoticed because it happens so often! But with practice and time, it is most definitely possible to adapt your way of thinking from a negative mindset to a more positive one.

Practice Gratitude.
It really helps me to practice gratitude every day. Ask yourself what you are grateful for and remind yourself of even the little things in life that you are grateful for. Throughout lockdown, I have actually realised that humans are quite basic, simple animals. The next holiday booked or a fancy meal out are just luxuries – it’s the smaller things in life which matter, like family and friendships. Practicing your gratitude’s every day routinely encourages your mind to focus on the positives in life, which can often go neglected and forgotten about when life overwhelms us. Focussing on the good and reinforcing it can really help gain a more positive attitude.

Take Responsibility
Remember: being responsible of a problem does not mean that is it your fault. However, being able to take responsibility for the way you handle the problems and stresses in life is also useful in order to feel more positive. Take the example of being rejected by a career. Yes, it’s disappointing and yes, it’s unpleasant, but it is not your fault that they rejected you. Take the responsibility for the way you handle the rejection – you are responsible for you. This can be applied to many problems which occur in life – a stolen bank card? Had an argument with your partner? Failed an exam? Although these situations are unideal, being able to take responsibility for the way they make you feel can help largely with your overall attitude to life and the problems which come with it.  

Engage with positive resources
I’ve just finished reading ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.’ It’s a great book, offering advice with regards to holding an accepting and mindful approach to life. I also love listening to the ‘Deliciously Ella Podcasts’, which cover an array of topics, from building a happy brain to dealing with stress. Engaging in positive resources and learning about positivity most definitely cheers me up and helps me practice a positive attitude!

I hope these tips will help some of you. Don’t forget to join the family to be notified whenever I upload a blog post!

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

Uncertainty about the Future


Hello everyone, how are you doing?

I was overwhelmed with the influx of responses on my Instagram poll in favour for writing about the topic ‘feeling uncertain about the future.’ Recently, I have spent a copious amount of time reflecting which led to me think about life and the coming years.

Take this analogy; our lives are like journals, and each day of our lives represents a new page in the journal. We enter the world as fresh, new canvases, yet to experience a memory or complex emotion. As we grow older and time progresses, our insights are broadened from opportunities and experiences, as each memory is etched onto the white pages of the journal. One by one, another day passes, and another page is filled to mould the story which is your life. But when you first buy the journal, you can’t possibly predict what the pages will read, and that’s okay.

Many of us feel the pressure of life from time to time. We are frequently exposed to the successes of others through social media’s feeds, which are crammed with celebratory graduations, new jobs, promotions and high grades. Everybody appears to have a plan; everyone seems to have a future job secured and their whole life organised. Although it’s great to celebrate the success of others, we fail to recognise that social media often only presents the highs of people’s lives, causing us to forget that we are not alone in feeling uncertain and worried about the future. When I ask people ‘have you always known this was the career you wanted to do?’ the answer most of the time is ‘no.’ Even when I asked those who have just graduated from University ‘what career do you want to end up in’ or ‘what’s your next plan?’ most people respond with ‘I don’t know.’

Whether you feel worried about the next stage in life, or what you want to be, it is completely natural to feel this way. When I experienced a phase of uncertainty during my final year of University, I began to worry myself as I wasn’t sure what the next chapter in my life was going to be. However, I learnt to change this feeling of uncertainty into a positive experience and began to implement habits to solve the problem. I changed this negative feeling into a positive experience by dedicating time to search for work experience and opportunities which appealed to me. I also considered practical questions such as ‘what type of career do I envision myself to be in?’ Through involving myself in different opportunities and experiences, I discovered things about myself which have helped me find direction for the coming year. It didn’t happen overnight, but I hope this reassures you that things do fall into place. Through independent research, reaching out to people, organisations and companies, I learnt more about myself and my interests, which led to opportunities that suited to me. However, remember that It is okay to not know what the next stage in your life will be – life has a weird way of unfolding sometimes.

I hope this reassures you and I hope you’ve enjoyed reading. Don’t forget to subscribe to be notified when I post!

Have a lovely week!


Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

Tackling Long-Distant Relationships


Hello lovely people,

What have you been up to lately? The Spring months are drawing to a close as Summer soon greets us. We are wakened to light blue skies and the golden rays of sunlight which beam through the windows and brighten our rooms. Windows slightly ajar, the soft chirping of birds are heard, each delicately balancing on the leafy branches of trees. Bursts of coloured flowers populate the green grass from the rebirth of Spring, and a sense of tranquillity comforts us with a warming welcome. This is a time of reflection, and for many of us, a time of distance from our loved ones. Writing a blog post regarding long distance relationships has been pending on the ‘to-do’ list for a while, and given the current situation, I decided now was the perfect time.

As I have learnt to grow and build upon my long-distant relationship, I caught onto the many stigma’s which surround long distance relationships, such as ‘they won’t last’ and ‘they’re too much effort than they’re worth.’ However, myself and many of my friends have experienced successful long-distance relationships, which shows these stigmas are just stigma’s, and don’t reflect all long distant relationships. From a personal perspective, my boyfriend and I have tackled a long distant relationship for three years now, due to attending different Universities in separate cities. I firmly believe that long-distance relationships can work with the right mindset and balance. So, today, I would like to share with you a few tips which helped my relationship during times of distance.

The first tip is effective commination. This focusses on the quality of the communication rather than quantity. Communication is one of the most important parts of maintaining a healthy relationship, so is particularly vital during long distance. Not seeing your partner for a while can create sadness and strain, and of course you will miss them – this is all natural. Therefore, effective communication is key. Arrange a time each day to call or FaceTime and ensure that you express your feelings so that your partner understands them and is aware. During long distance, facial cues can often be lacked and it’s more difficult to pick up on how the other person is feeling, so effectively talking about problems and your feelings is very crucial!

It is also vital to have your own space. In other words, although you are apart, this does not mean that you have to text/communicate every minute of every day. It’s important to have time to yourself, and if you have a phone call or FaceTime arranged, this is something to look forward to! For example, if you’re going somewhere or are spending time with a friend during the day, it’s always nice to spend time off your phone, and update your partner about your day later in the evening.

It’s also lovely to surprise your partner during long distance. Whether it be a card in the post or ordering a surprise takeaway for them. It’s a great way to lift the mood, particularly because you will be missing each other. My boyfriend used to surprise me with my favourite milkshakes from a dessert restaurant when I was at University, which I was so grateful for! Little acts of kindness go a long way.

It can be tough at times, but with the effort and pushing through the tougher periods, long distance can be done and is most definitely worth it. I hope this has helped and hope you’ve enjoyed reading.

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Somewhat Perfect xxx

Accepting The Highs and Lows


Hey guys, how have you been doing?

I think it’s safe to say that Spring is most definitely approaching – the air feels crisp and the evenings are lighter. Colourful dots have begun to blossom amongst the green canvas of grass, whilst white wispy clouds swirl through the light blue sky, delicate and fluffy. Each morning, I have been going on runs. It allows me to absorb the surroundings and appreciate the smaller things in life we sometimes take for granted. It also helps declutter my mind and sets the tone for the day, in which I return home with clearer thoughts and a calmer vision for the day ahead. It’s really helped me stay calm, particularly during this weird time. Today, I want to provide some reassurance about the current situation, and hopefully encourage you to accept how you are feeling, because I’m sure we are all experiencing up and down phases at the moment – which is totally okay.

Take this scenario. You wake up one morning, your mood is flat, you feel lazy, Netflix sounds too tempting to resist so you stay in bed and wear pyjamas all day.

Sound familiar? *Currently raising my hand*

This post is a little reminder that ‘off’ days are okay, and you are not alone if you are finding this time difficult. It can be challenging to stay positive all the time, particularly when we are repeatedly reminded of everything that is occurring around us. This is a time of change and uncertainty where we are restricted to the four walls of home, with many of us having to adjust to different living dynamics and new routines. Things at the moment are different, so of course not every day will be easy – it’s only natural to feel that way. It is okay if you wake up feeling down. It is okay to have a day off. It is okay to feel worried or uncertain. These are normal feelings most of us will experience given the current situation. Good days will come, and not-so-good days will go. Remember that this time will pass, we just have to take each day as it comes.

What can help lift your mood?

Obviously, different strategies work for different people, but I’ve been trying to implement a few different activities into my daily routine to keep myself entertained, and to help distract myself from the situation. Simple things such as phoning a friend or spending some quality time with family members are a great distraction. I’ve also been drawing, reading, baking, painting, running, meditating and doing home work-outs for some technology-free escapism. I’ve heard great things about Yoga too – I plan on starting that at some point too!

Although this has been different from my previous posts, I just thought a daily reminder would hopefully help and reassure you that the emotions you’re experiencing during this time are all completely natural and okay. We are in this together and this time will pass.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and I hope it’s helped. Have a lovely rest of your day/evening!

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

What To Do When You Feel Overwhelmed


7:00am. You wake up to the familiar sound of your alarm and already you are thinking about your to-do list which flows like the closing credit of a film. Wouldn’t it be so much easier to stay wrapped up in the warm comforts of bed, shielding yourself from all the stress? Life can calve endless chores and tasks into our days, making us feel overwhelmed and tired. I can’t count the amount of times I have had to take a step back and force myself to relax to help manage my stress levels. We’ve all been there, and it can be very mentally draining. So, today, I want to share with you a few tips which can help cope with these feelings of overwhelmingness.

  1. Let go of what you can’t control

I once read a statistic which showed a high percent of what we overthink and worry about doesn’t even happen. What a waste of thoughts, right? You can’t control everything in life, so letting go of the things you’re not in control of is a great first step to reduce stressful thoughts. I sometimes ask myself ‘what is the point in worrying about what I can’t control?’ Overthinking these things is pointless, because thinking about them won’t change anything – what will be will be. Let life unfold the way it wants to, because things work out eventually.

  • Simplify

When things feel overwhelming, it’s so easy to fill your mind with tasks, making you feel like they all need to be done at once. This only causes more stress. When you wake up, simplify what needs to be done. Break what needs to be done into smaller steps – you can do this by writing a to do list and prioritising. Seeing things written on paper definitely reduces my stress levels as they no longer feel jumbled in my head!

  • Relax

Relaxing when you feel overwhelmed can make you feel slightly guilty, I understand. But it’s so important to listen to your mind and body if you feel like you’re crashing. Allow yourself to just relax for a little while – your wellbeing is much more important. Also, you are way more likely to be more productive after a rest because it gives yourself time to replenish, so it’s a win-win!

So, there are a few tips I thought I would share with you when things feel like they are getting too much. It happens to all of us and I believe being able to cope with stress and put our wellbeing first is so important. Let me know how you get on!

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx


How to Lift Your Mood on a Down Day


Hello everyone!

How are you doing?! I just want to begin this post by saying thank you all so much for all of your support! Over 100 people are now subscribed to my blog, and I’m so pleased that you are enjoying my posts and that they are helping you guys.

So, returning back to the focus topic of today – lifting your mood when you’re feeling down. Have you ever woken up one morning feeling a little flat? Your mood is low and your mind is clouded by thoughts. Something is chipping away at the positivity in you, and you just can’t explain why. We’ve all been there, and that’s completely okay. But being able to tackle these down days and pick yourself back up is crucial for our well being, and it’s also a great way of practicing self care. So, I thought I would share with you a few simple strategies which can be used in order to uplift your mood during times you are feeling a little blue.

1) Spend time away from social media

It’s very tempting to fulfil your down days with time spent on social media, because it barely requires much effort and it’s an easy habit. However, this can have an adverse effect and actually make you feel worse. Spending time away from social media allows you to detach from the digital world and focus on the present. Spend your time by immersing yourself in other engaging activities which can be rewarding and refreshing, such as reading a book, writing or going for a walk.

2) Meditate

This is great for an instant mood change. It sounds cliché, but I can’t express enough how effective I find meditation! Taking just five minutes out of your day to close your eyes, let go of your worries and untie the knots in your mind can feel so invigorating. It allows you to focus on your breathing and forget about the external stresses which have been on your mind all day. If you don’t know where to start, simply type up ‘meditation for beginners’ on YouTube – there’s plenty of clips to use!

3) Arrange to meet a friend

On a down day, the thought of seeing or speaking to somebody can feel draining and can feel like a lot of effort. But the thought is always worse than the reality, and actually having company can boost your mood as well as successfully distracting yourself from your worries. My friends and I love to have a cup of tea and a good chat, especially when we are feeling down – it’s such a good form of therapy!

So, those are a few tips I thought I would share with you which help me when I’m having a down day. It’s so normal to experience these kinds of days, but being able to pick yourself up when you’re feeling down so important and is also a great habit to fall into.

Let me know how you get on, and I hope they help! Thanks so much for reading. I hope you have a lovely rest of your day.

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

How to Accept You For You


Hello everyone, how are you doing this evening?
Yesterday was my first day back at uni, so I’ve been consumed with busy schedules and adjusting back to the routine after the Christmas break. Today, dark clouds covered the sky, resembling a grey blanket and reflecting the cold air which felt like frosty icicles on my skin. It was so nice to return home and light the candles with a comforting hot water bottle, sheltered from the wintery climate outside.

Recently, I have been thinking about the importance of self-acceptance, and how crucial it can be for our mental health. It’s sometimes easy to be swept away by the negative voice in our heads which criticize us for our mistakes and focus unnecessarily on our weaknesses. Being able to accept ourselves for who we are not only injects a syrup of happiness into our lives, but also helps us flourish as individuals and increases our self-esteem.

In order to help achieve self-acceptance, being aware of your strengths and weaknesses is key. Remember that no individual is the same, we are all different – unique and special in our own ways. Our strengths and weaknesses shape who we are; our strengths help us shine and our weaknesses are aspects of ourselves which we can improve on. Adoring our strengths and accepting our imperfections creates a magical path, which creates a journey towards self-acceptance – it’s okay not to be perfect! Being perfect is impossible – if we were all perfect, we wouldn’t be unique.

Also, remember to focus on your accomplishments. It’s a great way to accept you for you. Did you complete an assignment today? Or have you ticked off a few things on your to-do list? Did you make someone smile today? Award yourself for the accomplishments you have achieved – they make you a great person and encourage a positive mindset.

I have also found that being able to let go of negative mistakes from the past is essential for accepting yourself for who you are. The past is in the past and it can’t be changed. Mentally fighting your previous mistakes when they are glued in the past only worsens how we feel. It’s done, it’s in the past and you are now in the present. So, try to live in the present, reward yourself for your accomplishments and try to focus on the things you love about yourself.

So, there’s just a little reminder that you are amazing the way you are. Everybody has strengths as well as weaknesses and being able to accept these imperfections is important in order to achieve self-acceptance.

I hope you are having a great day and remember to keep smiling! I hope you have enjoyed reading this post and I hope it helps.

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

Appreciating the Small Things in Life


Hey lovely people, how is your day/evening going?

Before I begin this post, I just wanted to quickly say a huge thank you for all your support! I now have 70 of you who are subscribed to my blog, and although that may not seem a lot in comparison to others, I’m still so overwhelmed that so many of you are enjoying my posts – it means so much to me and I’m so happy I can help!

Currently feeling very zen right now. I’m curled up in bed, wearing some fluffy socks and drinking peppermint tea. I don’t know about you, but I love herbal teas – especially of an evening. It’s currently raining here; the water droplets are tapping on the ground outside ever so gently. I’ve lit a few candles which are emitting a fiery orange glow, making me feel super cosy!

Today I want to talk about appreciating the little things in life. My friend sent me a quote and it was a great reminder, so I thought I’d share it with you:

“Today, I will pay attention to the small things that bring me joy.”

I feel like it’s so important to remember this. It’s so easy to become wrapped up and consumed with the stress of our day to day lives that we focus on the negatives and we take the small things in life for granted. Sometimes in life, it’s required for us to take a step back, breathe and remind ourselves of the smaller things in life that make us happy. Whether it’s friends, family, your partner, a hobby or even if it’s as simple as a book you’re currently reading. In times of stress or difficulty, remember the simple, small things in life which we may often forget about!

So, I just thought I’d share that quote with you as it was a nice reminder for me and so I thought it would be a nice reminder for you too!

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx