How to Journal


Hello everyone,

As I write this, I’m currently sat with my morning coffee wrapped in my dressing gown – it’s one of those days. How about you?

So, today I’m going to chat about journaling and my experience with it. As many of you know, I journal religiously. I have journaled most days since I was about ten years old and have since filled so many journals. It’s something which I find comfort in, allowing me to unleash all my thoughts and feelings privately – it’s like relieving a weight off my chest by sharing the thoughts in my head and knowing it remains completely confidential.

Why is journaling so important?

There are copious amounts of evidence proving the beneficial effects of journaling, especially on our mental wellbeing. Journaling is a great stress-management tool and a great way to self-reflect. It has also been proven to successfully declutter the mind, organize thoughts and it also allows you to solve the muddled problems existing in your head. There are so many positive effects of journaling – it’s definitely something I would recommend to anybody.

How do I journal?

Everybody’s experience is obviously slightly different. However, I like to find a quiet space (eg/ on my bed). I often journal just before I sleep – I treat it as a meditation habit. I also keep my door closed to enjoy the mindfulness experience alone, and I love it even more when it’s raining outside! I often just write about whatever comes to my mind. What I’ve done that day, how I’m currently feeling or anything that’s bothering me. It’s a great way to declutter the mind and clear my thoughts.

What do I use?

I usually just use a journal and handwrite each entry. However, sometimes it can be difficult to know what to write, especially for beginners or those who find writing a little more difficult. It can even be challenging to convert thoughts into words, and so it sometimes helps me to follow guided journaling which encourages the mind to think and also provides many prompts for your writing. The app I’ve been using lately is called DiveThru, an incredible guided journaling app. From friendships to mental health, the app has a wide selection of different guided journaling topics. It focusses on different emotions you may be feeling, from anxiety, to confusion, to sadness. It’s great to have my journal next to me as well as a prompt from the app such as ‘How am I doing today?’ Also, due to Covid-19, the app has been made free until August so I would most definitely download it soon and try out all of the different journaling journeys! It’s so good for the wellbeing and it has both helped and encouraged me to write.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog post! Have a lovely day and happy journaling!

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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

The Importance of a Social Media Detox


Hello everyone,

Happy Friday! I also can’t be the only one thinking HOW is it August already!? It’s a very grey and windy morning here today – a little reminder that Autumn will be greeting us soon.

Today, I want to highlight the importance of having a social media detox. A few weeks ago, a few of my friends and I went to Wales for a few days as my friend has a house there. Passing the green fields and along the sandy coasts, we finally arrived at a beautiful, white cottage-like holiday home. It was located in the quietest area, surrounded by scenic views and the atmosphere felt muffled because it was so tranquil. And, to top it off, there was no WIFI and I had ran out of any 3G/4G by this point – a genuine digital detox and it did me the world of good.

Don’t get me wrong – social media has many positive aspects to it. However, I feel like many of us are habitually consumed by the ‘perfect’ façade of social media. We are exposed to influxes of filtered images and the highlights of people’s lives which can cause us to compare ourselves to others thus having a negative impact on our mental wellbeing. It can also cause feelings of FOMO, as comparing your life to what you see online can be nearly impossible, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. So sometimes, time spent away from the online world is very much needed!

Experiencing five days away from social media felt like a mental and emotional cleanse. Temporary detached from the online world and truly feeling engaged in nature and the real world was so refreshing. It felt so enriching to spend time talking to my friends with undivided attention – without having the subconscious need to check my phone. It’s a different type of presence that doesn’t co-exist with social media usage.

I realised that spending time on social media can quickly change your mood, so spending time away from it made me feel happier. Spending less time on my phone allowed me to reflect more, both on myself and on life, and I overall felt a lot more content. I realised that social media can sometimes add extra stress and negativity to life when used too much. And, although I am back at home with WiFi now, I’ve decided to use social media a lot less and replace it with doing something more productive. For example, I don’t go on social media as soon as I wake up anymore which is something that I used to do.

Have you had a social media detox recently? If you haven’t, perhaps consider doing one, especially if you are feeling a little overwhelmed at the minute.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and I hope it helps you. Don’t forget to subscribe to be notified whenever I post.

Have a lovely day xxx

Building Self-Confidence


Hello everyone,

Happy Wednesday, I hope you all had a lovely weekend. A few weeks ago, I put another poll up on Instagram, in which the majority of votes were in favour for writing a post about building confidence.

Trust me when I say that confidence issues are not rare. Whether you feel unconfident about yourself, your career or other aspects of life, it can be very unmotivating and can prevent you from stepping out of your comfort zone. Everybody struggles with confidence at some point in their lives, and so it’s important to tackle these issues for improved wellbeing and to love yourself!

Do you tell yourself that you aren’t good enough? Do you compare yourself to other people? Do you put yourself down and criticise yourself? We are all guilty of it, but these harmful thinking patterns are very damaging for your confidence, mental health and self-esteem. They also often occur from habit but can be dealt with through a change of mindset.

  1. Practice self-love
    Make a list and write down what you love about yourself. What are your strengths? What are you proud of? What have you achieved? Do this whenever you’re feeling down or are lacking in confidence. Feeding your mind self-love is a great way to feel better about yourself. Remember that everybody is different – you are special and great in your own way.
  2. Affirmations
    Waking up and telling yourself positive affirmations is a great way to practice your mind into a healthy, positive place. Tell yourself you accept yourself. Tell yourself you are confident in your abilities. Remind yourself that you can do what you’re wanting to achieve.
  3. Step out of your comfort zone
    This can be very challenging, particularly during times when your confidence is low. However, stepping out of your comfort zone can really help with this. It’s all about getting comfortable with discomfort. As you practice is more and break boundaries, you will see yourself grow and you will learn to enjoy new challenges. Nobody is completely fearless of change – it can be scary! But being able to take baby steps and put yourself in unusual environments can do the world of good.

Obviously, a growth in self-confidence doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process which takes time. But being able to recognise that your self-confidence needs a boost, and willingly putting the effort in to help yourself is the first big step in achieving it.

I hope you’ve enjoyed the blog post today and I hope it helps you.

Lots of love,

Somewhat Perfect xxx

Uncertainty about the Future


Hello everyone, how are you doing?

I was overwhelmed with the influx of responses on my Instagram poll in favour for writing about the topic ‘feeling uncertain about the future.’ Recently, I have spent a copious amount of time reflecting which led to me think about life and the coming years.

Take this analogy; our lives are like journals, and each day of our lives represents a new page in the journal. We enter the world as fresh, new canvases, yet to experience a memory or complex emotion. As we grow older and time progresses, our insights are broadened from opportunities and experiences, as each memory is etched onto the white pages of the journal. One by one, another day passes, and another page is filled to mould the story which is your life. But when you first buy the journal, you can’t possibly predict what the pages will read, and that’s okay.

Many of us feel the pressure of life from time to time. We are frequently exposed to the successes of others through social media’s feeds, which are crammed with celebratory graduations, new jobs, promotions and high grades. Everybody appears to have a plan; everyone seems to have a future job secured and their whole life organised. Although it’s great to celebrate the success of others, we fail to recognise that social media often only presents the highs of people’s lives, causing us to forget that we are not alone in feeling uncertain and worried about the future. When I ask people ‘have you always known this was the career you wanted to do?’ the answer most of the time is ‘no.’ Even when I asked those who have just graduated from University ‘what career do you want to end up in’ or ‘what’s your next plan?’ most people respond with ‘I don’t know.’

Whether you feel worried about the next stage in life, or what you want to be, it is completely natural to feel this way. When I experienced a phase of uncertainty during my final year of University, I began to worry myself as I wasn’t sure what the next chapter in my life was going to be. However, I learnt to change this feeling of uncertainty into a positive experience and began to implement habits to solve the problem. I changed this negative feeling into a positive experience by dedicating time to search for work experience and opportunities which appealed to me. I also considered practical questions such as ‘what type of career do I envision myself to be in?’ Through involving myself in different opportunities and experiences, I discovered things about myself which have helped me find direction for the coming year. It didn’t happen overnight, but I hope this reassures you that things do fall into place. Through independent research, reaching out to people, organisations and companies, I learnt more about myself and my interests, which led to opportunities that suited to me. However, remember that It is okay to not know what the next stage in your life will be – life has a weird way of unfolding sometimes.

I hope this reassures you and I hope you’ve enjoyed reading. Don’t forget to subscribe to be notified when I post!

Have a lovely week!


Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

Tackling Long-Distant Relationships


Hello lovely people,

What have you been up to lately? The Spring months are drawing to a close as Summer soon greets us. We are wakened to light blue skies and the golden rays of sunlight which beam through the windows and brighten our rooms. Windows slightly ajar, the soft chirping of birds are heard, each delicately balancing on the leafy branches of trees. Bursts of coloured flowers populate the green grass from the rebirth of Spring, and a sense of tranquillity comforts us with a warming welcome. This is a time of reflection, and for many of us, a time of distance from our loved ones. Writing a blog post regarding long distance relationships has been pending on the ‘to-do’ list for a while, and given the current situation, I decided now was the perfect time.

As I have learnt to grow and build upon my long-distant relationship, I caught onto the many stigma’s which surround long distance relationships, such as ‘they won’t last’ and ‘they’re too much effort than they’re worth.’ However, myself and many of my friends have experienced successful long-distance relationships, which shows these stigmas are just stigma’s, and don’t reflect all long distant relationships. From a personal perspective, my boyfriend and I have tackled a long distant relationship for three years now, due to attending different Universities in separate cities. I firmly believe that long-distance relationships can work with the right mindset and balance. So, today, I would like to share with you a few tips which helped my relationship during times of distance.

The first tip is effective commination. This focusses on the quality of the communication rather than quantity. Communication is one of the most important parts of maintaining a healthy relationship, so is particularly vital during long distance. Not seeing your partner for a while can create sadness and strain, and of course you will miss them – this is all natural. Therefore, effective communication is key. Arrange a time each day to call or FaceTime and ensure that you express your feelings so that your partner understands them and is aware. During long distance, facial cues can often be lacked and it’s more difficult to pick up on how the other person is feeling, so effectively talking about problems and your feelings is very crucial!

It is also vital to have your own space. In other words, although you are apart, this does not mean that you have to text/communicate every minute of every day. It’s important to have time to yourself, and if you have a phone call or FaceTime arranged, this is something to look forward to! For example, if you’re going somewhere or are spending time with a friend during the day, it’s always nice to spend time off your phone, and update your partner about your day later in the evening.

It’s also lovely to surprise your partner during long distance. Whether it be a card in the post or ordering a surprise takeaway for them. It’s a great way to lift the mood, particularly because you will be missing each other. My boyfriend used to surprise me with my favourite milkshakes from a dessert restaurant when I was at University, which I was so grateful for! Little acts of kindness go a long way.

It can be tough at times, but with the effort and pushing through the tougher periods, long distance can be done and is most definitely worth it. I hope this has helped and hope you’ve enjoyed reading.

Have a lovely rest of your day. Feel free to join the family:

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

My Daily Routine at Home


Hey guys, I hope you’re all staying well and keeping positive during this strange time!

I know that many of us have been through a lot of change recently – a change of work setting, having to work from home, even a change in living dynamics. I’ve also noticed on social media that a few people have been struggling to adapt to this change of routine. So today, I’m going to share with you my daily routine which I have recently adapted to since all this change, and I hope it can offer some inspiration/ideas for you!

My Daily Routine:

Wake up: I usually set my alarm for 8:30am on weekdays. Setting my alarm for the same time each day really improves my sleep cycle and is a great way to keep your daily routine consistent. I’ll then drink a few cups of water and have a piece of fruit (I eat lightly at this time because I go for runs every morning).

Exercise: Since being restricted to home, I’ve really tried to utilise this time to practice self-care and aim to be healthier. So, every morning, I’ve been going on runs alone which are doing me the world of good. Inhaling the fresh air each morning whilst being surrounded by empty greens feels so invigorating and is also a great way to leave the house. I would definitely recommend a morning exercise to anybody, and if running isn’t for you, you could try a hit workout, normal workout or even yoga! They have so many tutorials to follow on YouTube, so definitely try that out. It really puts my head in a good space, preparing it for the day, especially when our days are now spent indoors.

Getting ready for the day: I’ll then shower and get ready for the day! I’m making the most of working from home, so I usually slip on a pair of comfy joggers with a cosy top – being comfy is key for me! I’ll then make myself a cup of tea (mint green is so good in the morning) and crack on with University work! Remember to drink lots of water throughout the day to stay hydrated!

Lunch: I’ll have lunch usually between 12-1pm depending on the day and how I am feeling! Eating healthy can really boost your mood, which is especially important during times like this, so I’m trying to be keep a balanced diet.

Back to work: After lunch, I’ll then usually work some more until 4pm. I understand that if you have a full-time job that you will finish later than that! Everyone’s routines will differ slightly!

In the evening: By the evening, I will switch off my laptop so that I’m not tempted to look/finish anymore work! It’s important to be able to switch off after a day of hard work! I’ll then have dinner.

Self-care: I preach about self-care so often because it’s so important to me! I try to implement a dose of self-care every single day, and find it particularly therapeutic to do so before bedtime. Whether it’s reading a book with a peppermint tea, painting my nails, running a warm bath, having a pamper session, watching a favourite film or a 10-minute meditation, I make sure I do at least one of these every night-time before I sleep. It allows me to have a calmer head space and helps me wind down for bed.

Goodnight: I usually aim to fall asleep at the same time each night to again regulate my sleep cycle and keep a consistent routine. I also still regularly use lavender oil before I sleep, as it really relaxes my mind and helps me drift off. I also recommend doing night time meditations (The Honest Guys on Spotify and YouTube are really good!)

So, that’s the routine I’ve adjusted to since being at home! I hope it helps you and gives you some ideas! I find that having a structured routine really helps both my motivation and my productivity when working at home.

I hope you are all staying positive and safe, and remember that we are all in this together!

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx

Calming Your Thoughts Before Sleep


Hey everyone, how are you all doing today?

Soon, we will wish autumn farewell for the year, and winter will greet us with frosty fingertips. As the fallen leaves on the ground turn crispier, the twiggy branches on trees remain bare as the icy air allures winter hats and scarves.

So, stopping racing thoughts before we sleep, how can we do it? A lot of us are prone to overthinking, especially when I’m trying to wind down before bed. I don’t know about you, but it often occurs when I’ve had a stressful day, or when I’ve got a busy schedule ahead of me. I close my eyes, trying to sleep, yet my mind is whirling around in a pool of rushing thoughts, making it seem impossible to drift to sleep.

As a frequent mindfulness goer, I have learnt that being able to distract your mind from busy thought’s is a powerful way to calm ourselves down. I have found that an effective way to distract your mind from reoccurring, stressful thoughts is by taking yourself to the present. Ask yourself: where am I? What can I touch? What can I smell?

As you close your eyes, you can feel the soft duvet shelter your resting body. You can feel your head sink effortlessly into the pillow. The warmth from the hot water bottle emits into your skin, as you inhale the soothing scent of lavender. 

Not only does this distract your mind from busy thoughts, but it calms the body and facilitates relaxation. Take yourself to the present. Remind yourself that there is no point worrying about tomorrow or worrying about the past when right now it isn’t in your control so it’s not worth worrying about!

So next time you’re struggling to sleep, close your eyes and try distracting your mind by focussing on the present! I hope this blog helps you, and if you want to see more content please subscribe!

Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx


Starting the Academic Year


Hey guys!

Currently sat by my desk drinking a cup of tea with some fluffy socks on. Looking outside the sky is a grey shield, and it’s been raining all morning, but I kind of like it because it means Autumn is definitely creeping on us! It’s just such a cosy time of year: lighting the fire, hot chocolates, watching the green leaves turn pleasantly crisp and beautifully orange.

I thought I would write a blog post today because it’s also the time of year where people head back to school and back to University. Being a Uni student myself, I know that the thought of starting a new academic year can be daunting but also refreshing. It’s a time where you can set yourself goals – academic or not and grow as independent individuals. I’m going to focus this blog entry on going back to school, and I’ll write another entry in a couple of days’ about going back to University, as for me, both routines are quite different so it’s just easier to write about them separately!

The thought of going back to school after such a long break made me feel a little uneasy on the days approaching the new academic year. I’d find myself asking ‘What if the work is too difficult for me?’ or ‘What if I can’t handle the work load.’ Everyone has their own worries about school, but the trick of mastering these worries is to try and enjoy it. I know that really sounds crazy, but the more you try to accept things, the easier they become. An example I can talk about is the dreaded ongoing battle I had with Maths during my GCSE period. I’m sure you guys can relate – maybe you struggle with English? Or you struggle with History? Everyone has their own struggles, and that’s totally ok!

Here’s a story for you. Unfortunately, I wasn’t blessed with natural mathematical ability. I really, really struggled with it. I once got a practice exam mark back and was so disheartened to see ‘29%’ written on the front page. It’s a very discouraging feeling, getting knocked back after working so hard. So that night, my Dad sat me down and said “This sounds bizarre, but you just need to make friends (metaphorically) with Maths. Enjoy it for what it is.” I contemplated on this saying for a while, but I realised that the route of my struggle with maths was because I kept fighting against it. Instead of accepting and focusing on what needed to be done, I was very quick to turn to negative feelings towards it because I knew I wasn’t naturally the most talented at it. After thinking about what my Dad told me, I made a promise to myself. I set myself a reasonable goal, which was to attend extra Maths sessions once a week, and to work on past papers for 30 minutes every night after school. I wasn’t harsh on myself and I rewarded myself every time I went to the extra sessions and whenever I completed a past paper. My mindset towards Maths changed, because I began focussing on the present and what I was achieving presently, rather than thinking ‘I could be so much better than this.’ I gradually saw my marks increased, and I’m not saying they increased to 100% because of course they didn’t – and I didn’t mind that, because I was content and proud with the hard work I put in and just the fact my marks were improving was making me pleased. I ended up achieving a B which I was unbelievably proud of, and it made everything worthwhile.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is, if you feel like you are struggling, don’t give up! Fight the battle with whatever seems to not be going in your favour. Whether it’s having difficulty with a subject, or not getting along with a teacher. The power of your mind will win the battle, and holding a more positive, believable attitude will make things a lot easier.

I hope this little bit of advice helps, if you have any questions please contact! Don’t hesitate to comment below to share your stories or give any feedback!

Lots of love, Somewhat Perfect xxx


Welcome

Hey friends,

Firstly, here’s a warm welcome to Somewhat Perfect. Come and join this loving community, where I will be discussing tips about lifestyle and sharing advice with you! Creating this platform is something I have wanted to do for a while, so I finally gathered the courage to do it! Hopefully this blog will help you guys, as I’ll cover a range of topics from university and school to better wellbeing and self care. Taking care of yourself and striving for better wellbeing is such an important aspect of life, and so I’m looking forward to sharing my tips and advice with you.

As a uni student myself, I have been through stressful times and I feel it’s so beneficial to share these experiences as they are so common and it’s good to talk about them. Nobody’s lives are ever a continuously smooth-running process, and so I am here, as your friend to share advice, help and chit-chat about life.

This is a new experience for me, but I am hoping you guys join in on this journey to create a positive and welcoming place for everyone. Nothing is better than snuggling up in bed with a nice drink, switching off any distractions and reading a good blog post. It’s so relaxing – it allows thoughts to be shared and problems to be halved. Sharing my stories, advice and ideas is something I cannot wait to do with you guys!

So please, grab your favourite drink and snack and use this platform as a happy haven – zone out and enjoy the content!

For now, I wish you all a lovely day/evening. You are all amazing – each and every one of you.

Speak soon

Somewhat Perfect xxx