Hello lovely people,
What have you been up to lately? The Spring months are drawing to a close as Summer soon greets us. We are wakened to light blue skies and the golden rays of sunlight which beam through the windows and brighten our rooms. Windows slightly ajar, the soft chirping of birds are heard, each delicately balancing on the leafy branches of trees. Bursts of coloured flowers populate the green grass from the rebirth of Spring, and a sense of tranquillity comforts us with a warming welcome. This is a time of reflection, and for many of us, a time of distance from our loved ones. Writing a blog post regarding long distance relationships has been pending on the ‘to-do’ list for a while, and given the current situation, I decided now was the perfect time.
As I have learnt to grow and build upon my long-distant relationship, I caught onto the many stigma’s which surround long distance relationships, such as ‘they won’t last’ and ‘they’re too much effort than they’re worth.’ However, myself and many of my friends have experienced successful long-distance relationships, which shows these stigmas are just stigma’s, and don’t reflect all long distant relationships. From a personal perspective, my boyfriend and I have tackled a long distant relationship for three years now, due to attending different Universities in separate cities. I firmly believe that long-distance relationships can work with the right mindset and balance. So, today, I would like to share with you a few tips which helped my relationship during times of distance.
The first tip is effective commination. This focusses on the quality of the communication rather than quantity. Communication is one of the most important parts of maintaining a healthy relationship, so is particularly vital during long distance. Not seeing your partner for a while can create sadness and strain, and of course you will miss them – this is all natural. Therefore, effective communication is key. Arrange a time each day to call or FaceTime and ensure that you express your feelings so that your partner understands them and is aware. During long distance, facial cues can often be lacked and it’s more difficult to pick up on how the other person is feeling, so effectively talking about problems and your feelings is very crucial!
It is also vital to have your own space. In other words, although you are apart, this does not mean that you have to text/communicate every minute of every day. It’s important to have time to yourself, and if you have a phone call or FaceTime arranged, this is something to look forward to! For example, if you’re going somewhere or are spending time with a friend during the day, it’s always nice to spend time off your phone, and update your partner about your day later in the evening.
It’s also lovely to surprise your partner during long distance. Whether it be a card in the post or ordering a surprise takeaway for them. It’s a great way to lift the mood, particularly because you will be missing each other. My boyfriend used to surprise me with my favourite milkshakes from a dessert restaurant when I was at University, which I was so grateful for! Little acts of kindness go a long way.
It can be tough at times, but with the effort and pushing through the tougher periods, long distance can be done and is most definitely worth it. I hope this has helped and hope you’ve enjoyed reading.
Have a lovely rest of your day. Feel free to join the family:
Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx