Have any of you been to the Christmas markets yet? I went last weekend – indulging in the festive atmosphere was so heartening. As fairy lights glistened, glitter baubles decorated the mini stalls and the queue for chocolate crepes was everlasting. Children were gleaming at the standing Santa Claus statues as adults shared laughter, sipping on warm mulled wine.
Today, I want to share a quick message with you, focussing on mental attitudes towards negative past experiences. Becoming consumed with upsetting past events is common, especially if they have significantly affected our wellbeing. However, over the years, I have learnt that focussing on a negative past event and regretting it doesn’t resolve any negative mentality. This led me to think ‘Why am I getting so worked up about something in the past when I’m now in the present?’
Through conscious effort (although I am no expert), I have tried to change my mental attitude towards negative past experiences. Although having these bad past experiences are unpleasant, I learnt that it is up to you in the present to help how it makes you feel now. Rather than looking back with regret, I ask myself what positive things I learnt from these past events, or what positive outcomes came from it. Whether it taught me to stand up for myself, brought me closer to loved ones or meant someone toxic was removed out of my life – a positive outcome came from it. I’ve found that occupying this mindset has allowed me to forgive the past, rather than dwelling on it with regret which overall leads to a happier frame of mind!
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Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx