How are you all doing?
In today’s post, I want to talk about something which can affect anybody, and most people have probably experienced it at some point in their lives: peer pressure.
“Stop being so boring and come out tonight,” “go on, you know you want to.” Sound familiar? Have you ever felt pressured into doing something you haven’t wanted to do but have ended up doing it just because you think it will please the people around you? You probably have, and that’s ok, because I’m sure it’s happened to all of us.
I feel like school and University are breeding grounds for peer pressure. During these times, you are surrounded by people who are finding themselves and wanting to try new things. It makes us feel like we have to do what everyone else is doing because we want to fit in, and we want approval from others. But, the important key to dealing with peer pressure is by staying true to yourself. Loving yourself and respecting your values is crucial in order to find the strength to reject unwanted experiences in a pressured situation. If you are in a situation where you feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do – then put yourself first and don’t do it.
It’s easier said than done, I understand that, and in the moment it’s difficult. Our mind becomes a battleground between our morals and wanting to please other people. And, when in this pressured environment, irrational thoughts will materialise into our minds, such as; ‘they won’t like me if I don’t do it.’ (although its important to recognise these thoughts are often untrue and irrational). Plus, if these people were your friends and they valued you as a person, they wouldn’t force you or pressure you to do anything – they would accept and respect your decisions and will love you regardless!
In a situation where you are being peer pressured, being able to recognize in the moment that you feel uncomfortable/uneasy about doing something is already an important step to staying true to yourself. You can then trust your feelings and remind yourself that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Value your opinions and yourself. Just because everyone else wants one thing doesn’t mean you want it too. We are all different and that’s totally fine!
So, in summary, stay true to yourself and your beliefs and don’t feel like you’re a bad person by saying no to people. Your true friends will stick by you and accept you for the person you are regardless if you want to do certain things or not.
Hope you have a lovely day and I hope this helps!
Lots of love,
Somewhat Perfect xxx